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June 2007
The goddess guide to FLIRTing - 7 easy steps!
Hey Here is a common misconception - Flirting comes naturally!
Well only to some goddesses - for the rest of us, flirting, like
cooking is a learned artform. So here goes ladies ...
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1. Make Eye Contact
In order to send an effective signal with eye contact, you need
to hold your gaze longer than might seem natural.
Three whole seconds. I always count in Harrisons (Ford variety!):
One Harrison ... Two Harrison ... Three Harrison.
That's ONE one-thousand ... TWO one-thousand ... THREE one-thousand.
Then be sure to look away. There's a fine line between sending
the "Hey, I noticed you. Come talk," signal and "I'm
a crazy stalker chick" signal.
2. Smile
Another simple tip! It's not about some super-sexy smile.
You want to convey that you're warmhearted, fun and approachable
by smiling NATURALLY - at everyone! Including the target in question.
If you radiate friendliness to everyone around you, he's more likely
to approach you.
3. Open with something playful
Now whether he approaches you (best option) or you decide to chat
him up (risky, but can be effective) I recommend breaking the ice
with a lighthearted, fun and flirty statement. Like if your at the
dog park " your beagle is totally ignoring my pooch - its not
her fault she has mixed lines!"
Just remember - smile, keep it light - be PLAYFUL, not biting or
sarcastic. Definitely no sarcasm!
4. Ask him questions about him
When you show interest in a man's life, he feels on top of the
world. Ask him questions about him - you create instant attraction.
He feels important and interesting, and he'll associate that feeling
with being with you and this is a subconscious motivator for him
to ask you out.
Of course if he only talks about himself without reciprocating
questions ... well thats up to you to decide ...
5. Laugh
This goes along with #4. Women love a man with a sense of humor,
and guys are acutely aware of this. If you laugh at his jokes, his
confidence will skyrocket. He's succeeded at charming you... which
means he's got the green light to ask you out.
6. What is Unique about You
Hopefully this guy is asking you questions. So make sure you reveal
something unique about yourself.
Maybe you have a talent like composing music, or are an aspiring
inventor, or a triathlete, or you write poetry, paint..... These
things will inspire his interest, intrigue him, and set you apart
from other women he knows.
Just be careful not to resort to standard tactics like showing
him that you're double-jointed! And by the way, that subtle sensual
innuendo you think you're sending? Not so subtle.
7. What about body language
Did you know that only 7% of communication is verbal - the rest
- 93% - is body language!
In other words, your actions (very literally) speak louder than
your words.
If a man spots you across the room but you have your arms folded
across your chest, that sends the signal "Stay away. I'm closed
off." If your posture is good and your shoulders are back,
opening up your frame, it sends the message that your heart is open
to possibilities (even if he's not consciously aware of it).
When you're talking with him, leaning in toward him shows interest.
If you're seated, crossing your legs and pointing them toward him
also sends a message that you're interested. Very literally, it
is the act of aligning your body with his that signals, "we're
in line with one another."
OK Girls - your FLIRTatious ambitions- go for it!
Have a VIBRANT month!
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